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Should You Send Your Child To A Single-Gender Private School?

admin — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 13:37:14 +0000

A controversial subject in today’s education debates is the theory that boys and girls should be educated separately because they learn differently. When selecting a private school parents wonder if there is there any merit to this debate.

Do Boys and Girls Learn Differently?

The basis of the theory of single-gender private school is that there is a body of neuroscientific research that shows male and female brains are different. The single-gender advocates interpret this to mean they learn differently. They aren’t saying boys are smarter or that girls are smarter, just that they learn differently.

Not surprisingly, these positions have ignited a firestorm. Opponents say these results are a result of gender stereotypes rather than real science or are a result upbringing rather than innate characteristics of the brain. A few magnify it into a conspiracy designed to keep girls from learning math.

Interestingly, the neuroscientists who produced the data are not the ones advocating single-sex education and have cautioned people from drawing practical conclusions from these preliminary and limited findings. Even if the gender-related learning differences are true, gender is still a very weak indicator. Many factors correlate to learning ability more strongly than gender.

It’s About More than Learning Ability

Parents choose to send their child to single-gender private schools for a number of reasons. Some evidence shows that girls are more likely to explore traditionally “boy” subjects like computer programming and auto mechanics if they are in all-girl schools. They end up performing better in math and science than their peers in mixed gender schools.

This crossover works for boys as well. Students in all-boy schools are more likely to take courses such as art. Boys and girls exhibit different social behavior without the inter-gender interplay. Boys are less competitive with no girls to show off for and girls are less shy and more relaxed.

Your Child Is Not General; Your Child Is Specific

Frankly, much of the single-gender education debate is completely irrelevant to parents. It doesn’t matter how girls learn; it matters how your daughter learns. It doesn’t matter if boys are competitive around girls; it matters if your son is competitive.

Studies that show learning differences based on gender, age, or other factors often show more variation within a group than between groups. For example, there is more variation in abilities when comparing girls to each other than when comparing girls to boys.

When evaluating private schools, evaluate single-gender schools just like you would any other – by how well their programs would fit your child. A boys’ school may be the right choice for one boy and the wrong one for another – even if those boys are brothers.

By judging schools by your child’s particular and unique needs, you can find the optimal educational institution that will provide the best education possible.
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Breast Tenderness in Teenagers and Young Adults

admin — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 10:53:03 +0000

Can you remember back to when you were younger, to the time when you experienced breast tenderness? It’s not easy being a young woman growing up. There is a constant roller coaster ride of emotions to feel and experiences to go through. Hormones are erratic, skin problems seem continual and your moods are up, opps now they are down, no wait, they are up!

Breast tenderness is normal and common when young women are going through puberty. Often they ache, causing discomfort. Embarrassment can be felt by what is thought as the “overnight” growth of your breasts. “Honestly, I could swear they weren’t there yesterday!”. Getting used to your breasts developing, having breast tenderness, feeling uncomfortable, finding what bra is right for you, whilst going through possible confidence and self esteem issues, can be a huge ordeal!

My advice for teenage girls and young adult women, is to learn the basics and be breast aware. Find someone you can talk to about what you are feeling and going through. For young women aged 20, I would encourage you to start doing monthly breast self exam. Why wait until you are 40! The sooner you get into the regular habit of doing this, the quicker you will become familiar with your breasts. Please get past the embarrassment and weird feeling of doing breast self exam. You and your girlfriends need to have a discussion about the signs of breast cancer – you owe it to yourself to talk it over with them.

Learning how to do regular breast exam, you will no doubt discover that you are like many of us, and have lumpy breasts. Don’t panic and assume that your breast lump is breast cancer. More than likely, your lump or breast lumps you are feeling, are hormonal. That’s why by doing your breast self exam each month, you get to know how your breasts normally feel, and know when to do your exam. Most breast tenderness at a younger age is usually associated with your cycle, so be aware and don’t panic.

Young women also need to be aware of inflammatory breast cancer, which is a highly aggressive uncommon cancer, that does not have a breast lump. I am not trying to scare you girls, but do read up on inflammatory breast cancer so that you know the particular signs of breast cancer to look for.

For teenage girls, I think it’s never too early to start talking about womens health issues and breast cancer. Education is so important and in my opinion it is never to early to start raising awareness. Sow the seed of breast health into your teenagers mind. She may not pick up on it right now, but with support and encouragement, open discussions and education, she may end up being a young adult who starts doing regular monthly breast self exam. Yippee to that I say!

Oh by the way girls, please don’t roll your eyes with horror or boredom, if your mother or another female in your life has a breast talk with you. It is only because she cares!
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Stained Glass Art, Craft and Pricing

admin — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 04:32:51 +0000

Stained Glass is about creativity that is pure excitement, passion and yes fun satisfaction. It happens when you least expect it for some it happens while staying at a cottage at the beach. The salty air, seashells and interesting things lying on the beach spark creativity. Stained Glass art and craft is born every day in the souls of those in need to make something.

Creativity equals satisfaction. Creativity must be affordable and accessible to everyone.

Stained glass art is a passion yet at the same time a medium that people are drawn in by its textures, light and infinite colors. It is different from drawing, pottery, and other forms of art yet it fuses all other mediums to come up with a new way of viewing our world.

Sadly, many people who attend craft shows think of stained glass as a decorative craft. Often I will tell an acquaintance that I own a stained glass business and they automatically ask me if I could make them a sun catcher, lampshade, or maybe a sidelight. Most people don’t understand the cost of glass, foil, came and solder, not to mention the patina and use of tools and time.

Most who walk into Wal-Mart can find a stained glass lamp for $20. The problem is that they probably purchased something made in China and sadly made by someone who earned pennies just so big Wal-Mart could profit off of slave wages. Another concern is that due to a profit margin most who makes stained glass lamps or sun catchers must cut corners in the types of materials and the amount of materials they use.

It was mentioned recently by a stained glass artist in Roanoke, Virginia that they’ve been commissioned to fix stained glass pieces made in China and noticed that the pieces weren’t properly soldered. It comes down to that you get what you pay for.

Another strong association for many of us is religious art in church windows. These are all appealing and appropriate uses of stained glass, although lately I’ve noticed churches in Roanoke using opaque glass as opposed to translucent. It’s not a design just some pretty glass they thought they would hang.

It is exciting seeing contemporary stained glass art. Stained glass as a hobby is easy to learn, and it isn’t hard on the hands and lastly don’t take as long as say knitting. It’s a great hobby for retirement communities, home schooled children and aftercare programs. I’ve actually made stained glass panels with 10 children ages 9-13.

Like a painter, I explore light, color and texture. Like a sculptor, I create pieces that are both 3-dimensional in reality and also give the viewer a 3-dimensional illusion; and they are tactile – at a recent show, nearly everyone who stopped to look at my windows also touched them and felt the contours. Most people love glass, and are fascinated by its transparency or translucence, and the way it toys with light. Colors and textures float in it as though in free space, and shift with changes in the light source as though alive.

Most people love glass, and are fascinated by its transparency or translucence, and the way it toys with light. Colors and textures float in it as though in free space, and shift with changes in the light source as though alive.

Stained glass is often called an architectural art form, because it is usually a part of a building. However, the work can serve two distinct functions within the architectural setting. Some work is architectural in design, comprising abstract or geometrical features that are continuous with or reflect lines and shapes in other components of the building, or maybe modify the look of the world beyond the window. It is part of the architect’s try and creates a new place. The connection that the window in the wall of the building is not seen as a connection between outside and inside, but as a frame for art and the daylight is used to bring the image to life.

Glass of different degrees of transparency is used so objects or what is beyond the window may be visible through it. They become part of the work – dynamic because they are subject to different lighting conditions.

Stained Glass is enjoyable for those to look at its beauty, and miracle that the everyday person can make. So go out and get some glass and make something you don’t have to hang on your refrigerator but in your window.

See the world through light!

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Domestic Violence Against Men

admin — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 14:37:37 +0000

Domestic violence against men is an all too real issue that doesn’t get as much attention as it should. There are an overwhelming number of domestic violence statistical data illustrating domestic violence against women. But, there is also plenty of evidence of men being subjected to domestic violence, as well. Some statistics suggest that out of every 100 reported domestic violence cases, about 40 of them are against men.

One of the biggest supporters against domestic violence against both men and women is Patti Austin, the 2007 Grammy award winning singer / songwriter. She was so moved by this “epidemic” that she started the Blue Movement in support of the victims of domestic violence. In fact, she was so moved by the story she saw on Oprah that she wrote a song called “By the Grace of God” as a way to speak out against domestic violence.

The month of October is designated as domestic violence month. As such, it is important for lawmakers and the general population to consider elevating the issue of domestic violence in support of a gender neutral movement. According to one report, there were an estimated 800,000 reported cases of domestic violence against men last year.

Domestic violence whether against men or women should not be tolerated. It’s somewhat understandable how women might get a wider audience of support, considering society views them as more vulnerable. And, of course, cases like the Annie Le murder at Yale or the Jaycee Dugard abduction capture the minds of the American populace. The perpetrators for the most part are men, but in the case of Dugard, the perpetrator was also his wife.

What many people fail to consider is that domestic violence against men, like women, happen in many different ways. Let’s look at the very visible case of Christopher Savoie. At face value, this may not appear to be domestic violence, but the man is now in jail because his wife abducted their children and took them to Japan. She was U.S. court had issued an arrest warrant for the mother!

According to a report by The Center for Disease Control and Prevention, they studied 11,000 men and women involved in domestic violence cases. What they found was that in 50% of the cases, the domestic violence involved both parties. And, an interesting fact, the woman was the first to strike. One other interesting revelation was that when the violence was one-sided, 70% of the time the perpetrator was the woman.

Another interesting statistic shows that domestic violence against men has more than doubled in the last 10 years. The actual numbers are probably even higher, because like in many domestic violence cases, they often are not reported. And, even when reported the victims and perpetrators often change their stories.

No matter how you look at the information, domestic violence against men or women is a bad thing. It’s bad for the parties involved, hurts communities and destroys families. Let’s all just hope that we find a way to educate everyone of this terrible travesty.

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The real sexism in the world?

admin — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 09:34:23 +0000

Why is it called “the liberation of women” when a woman slaps a man but abuse when a man slaps a woman? Why have feminists come a to a point where they are not looking for equality of women to men but for superiority of women to men? Have feminists become so

Is the feminist policy, “I can because I’m a female.”? Think about it, women now have the ability to kill their children.

Of course, we know that much abuse is given by men, but is there unsaid abuse by wmen to the same extent? Abuse that doesn’t make headline news? Emotional abuse, which can be more hurtful?

Thoughts?

p.S: If you haven’t guessed, i am completely against the modern feminist agenda. I am for the educated empowered woman who is proud of herself and her life, not one that is bitter about everything that is wrong with her life. Not one that looks to be a man.
Sexism is bull to me too.

I also believe in equal pay and such. Thats a given.

Abortion is wrong.

I believe also women have a special place/niche in the world. God gave us the joy and gift bearing children.
…but I also believe women also have a role in the world outside the home. We are productive citizens of the world as well.
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The Many Uses of Epsom Salts

admin — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 14:55:03 +0000

I remember as a kid when my Great Aunt Grace would put some Epsom Salts in a dish pan, add really warm water and soak her feet because they hurt.

So, to me, that’s what Epsom Salts was all about – a remedy for painful joints in old folks. Little did I know!

Times have changed – or have they?

All the talk about ‘Natural Remedies’ and ‘getting back to basics’ always floors me because my great aunt and my grandmothers were all doing this stuff when I was a little girl. So did my mom…and so have I. So, for me, there’s been no ‘getting back to’ anything.

However, I’m not too old to learn and since learning is one thing I LOVE to do, I decided to learn more about Epsom Salts after reading a snippet on detoxification. Here’s what I’ve found.

Studies show these benefits from the major components of Epsom Salt may:

Magnesium:

* Ease stress and improves sleep and Concentration

* Help muscles and nerves function properly

* Regulate activity of 325%2B enzymes

* Help prevent artery hardening and blood clots

* Make Insulin more effective

* Reduce inflammation to relieve pain and muscle cramps

* Improve oxygen use

Sulfates:

* Flush Toxins

* Improve absorption of nutrients

* Help form joint Proteins, brain tissue and mucin Proteins

* Help prevent or ease Migraine Headaches

The Many Uses of Epsom Salts…

1) Wash your face before going to bed

According to recent studies in the Journal of the American Academy of Dermatology, deposits of nicotine and carbon monoxide (from secondhand smoke and pollution) can wreck havoc on the skin..

To cleanse your face – Mix a half-teaspoon of Epsom Salt with your regular cleansing cream. Just massage into skin and rinse with cold water.

2) Troubleshoot with the right homemade mask

Apply this mask in the shower, to your damp face, to lock in the moisture. For normal to oily skin, mix 1 tablespoon of cognac, 1 egg, 1/4 cup of nonfat dry milk, the juice of 1 Lemon, and a half-teaspoon of Epsom Salt. For normal to dry skin mix 1/4 cup of grated Carrot, 1 1/2 teaspoons of mayonnaise and a half-teaspoon of Epsom Salt.

3) Smoother Softer Skin

Pour two cups into a bath of warm water. Lean back and relax. As you soak, the natural action of Epsom Salt helps soften the rough, dry patches of your skin. You can also rub Epsom salts all over the body, while wet, then rinse and towel off. Rubbing Epsom salts directly on the body exfoliates skin and leaves it smooth and silky. They make a great gift to give someone when you put them in a nice glass jar with lid and tie on a pretty ribbon. You can add scent to them by sprinkling them with essential oil. Or mix Epsom salts with baby oil and keep by the sink if you wash your hands a lot.

4) Add Body to Your Hair

Combine 3 tablespoons of deep conditioner with 3 tablespoons of Epsom Salt. Microwave the mixture for 20 seconds. Work the warm mixture through your hair from scalp to ends and leave on for 20 minutes. Rinse with warm water. Promotes body and life in your hair and restores curl to permed hair.

5) Remove Hairspray and Gel Buildup

Combine a gallon of distilled water, a cup of Lemon juice (fresh or bottled), and 1 cup of Epsom Salt. Cap the mixture and let it sit for 24 hours. The next day, pour the mixture into your dry hair and let it sit for 20 minutes. Then shampoo as normal.

5) Soak tired, aching feet (this one sounds familiar!)

Soak aching, tired feet in a pan of water with half a cup of Epsom salts and not only will your feet feel better, but they’ll smell better too. Epsom salts work to neutralize odor and soften skin. Soak feet until they feel better then rinse and dry well. A full bath should contain 2 cups of Epsom salts for relief of tired feet, back muscles, legs or just as a way to have softer skin.

6) Combat oily hair

The salts do wonders for the hair, absorbing oil from problem hair by adding 8 tablespoons of Epsom salts to a half a cup of shampoo that’s formulated for oily hair. Put a tablespoon of the shampoo mixture on dry hair and work it in and around the scalp area, rinsing it out with cold water. To rinse it well, and further treat oily hair, pour a cup of apple cider vinegar over the hair, leave on for 5 minutes, and then rinse with cool water.

7) Soak out splinters

Did you know, for instance, that soaking a splinter in Epsom salts can release the splinter and help the area to heal?

Make a poultice pack for strains or sprains

If you have any strained muscles or sprains, you can take 1/2 to 1 cup of Epsom salts and make a “pack” with it to place on the affected area, wrap with hot towel and allow it to rest for 20 minutes. TIP: This can be a lot less messy and more relaxing if done in the bath.

9) Helps prevent hardening of arteries and blood clots

Epsom Salt is also believed to help prevent Heart Disease and strokes by lowering blood pressure, protecting the elasticity of arteries, preventing blood clots and reducing the risk of sudden Heart Attack deaths.

10) Makes Insulin more effective

This salt also increases the effectiveness of Insulin, helping to lower the risk or severity of Diabetes.

11) Essential to plant health

Most plants to survive good health need nutrients like magnesium and sulfur. Magnesium Sulfate Crystals when added to the soil, provides vital nutrients to help prevent loss of green color (magnesium is an essential element in the chlorophyll molecule), yellowing leaves. Epsom Salt makes the primary nutrients in most plant foods (nitrogen, phosphorus, potassium) more effective.

12) Get rid of raccoons

Are the masked night marauders poking around your trash can, creating a mess and raising a din? A few tablespoons of Epsom salt spread around your garbage cans will deter the raccoons, who don’t like the taste of the stuff. Don’t forget to reapply after it rains.

13) Deter slugs

Are you tired of visiting your yard at night only to find the place crawling with slimy slugs? Sprinkle Epsom salt where they glide and say good-bye to the slugs.

14) Fertilize tomatoes and other plants

Want those Big Boys to be big? Add Epsom salt as a foolproof fertilizer. Every week, for every foot of height of your tomato plant, add one tablespoon. Your tomatoes will be the envy of the neighbor-hood. Epsom salt is also a good fertilizer for houseplants, roses and other flowers, and trees.

15) Make your grass greener

How green is your valley? Not green enough, you say? Epsom salt, which adds needed magnesium and iron to your soil, may be the answer. Add 2 tablespoons to 1 gallon (3.7 liters) of water. Spread on your lawn and then water it with plain water to make sure it soaks into the grass.

16) Clean bathroom tiles

Is the tile in your bathroom getting that grungy look? Time to bring in the Epsom salt. Mix it in equal parts with liquid dish detergent, then dab it onto the offending area and start scrubbing. The Epsom salt works with the detergent to scrub and dissolve the grime.

17) Regenerate a car battery

Is your car battery starting to sound as if it won’t turn over? Worried that you’ll be stuck the next time you try to start your car? Give your battery a little more life with this potion. Dissolve about an ounce of Epsom salt in warm water and add it to each battery cell.

18) Get rid of blackheads

Here’s a surefire way to dislodge blackheads: Mix 1 teaspoon Epsom salt and 3 drops iodine in 1/2 cup boiling water. When the mixture cools enough to stick your finger in it, apply it to the blackhead with a cotton ball. Repeat this three or four times, reheating the solution if necessary. Gently remove the blackhead and then dab the area with an alcohol-based astringent.

19) Frost your windows for Christmas

If you are dreaming of a white Christmas, but the weather won’t cooperate, at least you can make your windows look frosty. Mix Epsom salt with stale beer until the salt stops dissolving. Apply the mixture to your windows with a sponge — for a realistic look, sweep the sponge in an arc at the bottom corners. When the mixture dries, the windows will look frosted.

20) Relieves Constipation

Numerous studies have revealed that Epsom Salt can also be used to treat Constipation. The salt acts like a Laxative. It increases the water in the intestines and can bring about temporary relief from Constipation. However, it is strictly warned that Epsom Salts should not be used to relieve Constipation without the consultation of a physician as it may prove to be harmful in some cases. For occasional Constipation or irregularity, adults can mix 2 to 4 teaspoons into water until dissolved and drink. Kids 6 to 12 take half of that. This can be used twice a day by taking the first treatment, waiting 4 hours and taking the second dosage if necessary.

Sources:

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World Population Day – The Key is Women Empowerment

admin — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 06:50:29 +0000

“Think of the earth as a living organism that is being attacked by billions of bacteria whose numbers double every forty years. Either the host dies, or the virus dies, or both die.” – Gore Vidal, American novelist and critic.

The world is bursting at it seams thanks to the burgeoning global population. According to the present estimates, the world population is approximately around 6.5 billion. And India’s population alone is approximately 1.17 billion, which is one-sixth of the world population. So what’s the big deal? Well, its simple logic! When the world grows in numbers so does it problems! Bigger the numbers bigger the problems get! More people would mean more food to be grown to feed, more resources to provide quality health and education, more jobs to be created to provide employment, more cities and towns to accommodate and many such things! Unfortunately, the current global economic meltdown will not allow this to happen too quickly as it ought to be. In fact, it has already put the brakes on several important global issues the primary being health and education.

This twin-problem of increasing population and the global financial and economic crisis threatens to reverse hard-won gains in education and health in developing countries and the worst to be hit by this are women and girls, feels the United Nations. Even before the crisis happened, women and girls represented the majority of the world’s poor. And now this crisis has only aggravated their situation pushing them deep down into poverty, exposing them to increased health risks, especially if they are pregnant, and to hunger, malnutrition, and unemployment. The world cannot afford to turn a blind eye to the problems of the women as this has the ominous potential to spill over to affect the global community at large. Hence, rightly so, the focus of this year’s World Population Day on July 11 is investing in women and girls. The UN is urging member nations to continue to invest more in empowering women to help us get out of this global turmoil. This way the United Nations believes that the world will be put back on the path in achieving the Millennium Development Goals.

Origin and purpose of the World Population Day (WPD)
The need of the hour is to create awareness among global communities about the population crisis amid the economic meltdown and the worst repercussions it will lead to, particularly to women and girls and how addressing these issues will help the world! And the world will have to unite to act and continue to brainstorm to come out with innovative and safer ways to tackle the inequality between available resources and the increasing population! And this year’s World Population Day on July 11 seeks to do exactly this.

This year is the 20th anniversary of World Population Day. And what started as an annual event by the Governing Council of the United Nations Development Programme in 1989 which itself was inspired by the Five Billion Day on July 11, 1987 when the world’s population reached five billion, has now probably assumed greater importance like never before. Apart from honouring the customary way of celebrations to raise awareness of global population issues, set goals and seek ways by organising events, workshops, rallies and seminars and debates, this year’s WPD has a bigger task on hand as the world reels under the recession!

2009 WPD theme can help tackle recession-induced inadequacies and world population control
The theme for this year’s United Nations Population Fund’s (UNFPA) World Population Day is “Fight Poverty, Educate Girls.” With banners that declare “When girls stay in school and get an education, poverty has no chance,” this year’s campaign urges every man and woman to ‘join the anti-poverty movement and educate girls.’ This year, the World Population Day aims to build awareness of the importance of educating girls to help solve the vicious cycle of repercussions starting from development issues, to poverty, to human rights and to gender equality.

The global economic meltdown has been a cause of additional concern for a world that is already facing the acute problem of increasing population. What started as a financial crisis in rich countries is now deepening into a global economic crisis that is hitting developing countries hard. Recession basically means a sense of insecurity resulting in deep cutbacks on expenditure including on existing and new investments leading to unemployment, increasing protectionism which means that more and more people employed in foreign countries and institutions becoming jobless, governments spending less on public welfare projects like education, health, nutrition, which results in disempowerment of people and women in particular. All these will only make the situation go worse.

According to the UNFPA, the key lies in empowering women and children particularly those in developing countries as they will bear the brunt of the impact of the recession. The key lies in educating girls and empowering women to meet these challenges by way of policy responses that build on women’s roles as economic agents. The governments across the world should also continue and increase investments in public health, education, child care and other social services as these will help lessen the impact of the crisis on the entire family and raise productivity for a healthier economy.

What’s at stake!
The UNFPA sponsored International Conference on Population and Development (ICPD) has warned that in times of recession, the sexual and reproductive health services will likely suffer as health expenditures are cut back. However, it is a fact that each dollar invested in reducing unmet need for contraceptive services will avoid about $2-4 in expenditures on maternal and newborn health. Also at stake is the well being of the children that can be dramatically impacted due to loss of jobs for women in both formal and informal sectors. This coupled with restricted access to family planning services and health services could force them to take recourse to abortion, including unsafe abortion.

Empowered women and control of population
The UNFPA sees the reproductive health and gender issues as critical determinants of population dynamics. Fertility is driven largely by reproductive and health decisions that individual women can or cannot make, depending on the information, services and supplies that are available to them, the cultural context in which they live, and the educational and economic opportunities given to them. Empowered women can make these significant choices of spacing births by effective use of contraception, plan smaller families and healthier communities. And empowerment begins with proper education, access to better health services, and employment and economic freedom which would signal the beginning of effective population control and help reduce the impact of the global economic meltdown. Additionally, empowering women will result in improved maternal health, adequate nutrition to themselves, their children and families.

As the U.N Secretary General puts it, let us urge our decision-makers, at the national, state, district and at our homes, to protect women’s ability to earn income, keep their daughters in school, and obtain reproductive health information and services, including voluntary family planning. Let us help advance the rights of women and girls, and empower them as highly productive members of society capable of contributing to economic recovery and growth. There can be no better investment on this day or any other.
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Worried about ex-girlfriend?

admin — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 09:20:39 +0000

i have been with a girl for 18months, im 23 and she is 19. amonth ago she broke up with me, because she said i put her in a box. we also broke up beacause in a week she met someone, who is now pressuring her into sex….she has an addictive personality…and is having trouble with dieet pills. and selfesteem issues. she cries with me but goes back to him because she is dependant on him….socially, and transportation wise, he works with her….she has a problem with rejection….her father left when she was a baby…shes depressed but keeps on a mask when other people are near…how can i help her before she goes overboard with this guy and messes up her self? i want to help, not be her boyfriend right now, she has to find herself first. but is getting stuck in a cycle.i know she needs to make the choices. but she doesnt know the negative effect such things can have…how can i empower(by making it her decision, not mine)her to make the right decision for herself before it is too late?
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‘All cultures are equal.’?

admin — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 14:11:05 +0000

Are cultures that empower women equal to those that abase them? Are cultures that let gays live equal to those that murder them? Are cultures that have freedom of religion equal to those that persecute religious minorities? It’s an insult to equalize advanced and backward cultures.
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spilling my guts because i need some good advice?

admin — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 07:57:19 +0000

i am going to spill my guts out now because i am so alone and need some advice badly! here is my problem: i am 25 years old and my boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years. we have had the most amazing relationship always as we started out as best friends for a year before we got together. about a week ago he was freaking out because we thought we were pregnant, although we had been trying for a year so i don’t know what he was freaking out about. we started to talk, and at 5am he confessed that he is: a) bored, b) wants to sleep with other women, c) not sure if he is still in love with me, d) wants more space and possibly a break. this talking went on for days. in the end he said he didn’t want to break up, just wanted space to go out alone etc. we work together and are business partners in our own firm so i know we spend alot of time together every minute of everyday. a week on and he is so weird. i was always such an empowered woman and now i am powerless. i have to agree to things i dont want because if i don’t i know he will leave me at the slightest sign of anything he doesn’t like. he is cold and depressed and all i get is one word replies. i run around trying to think of things we can do so he doesn’t get bored, like he is a child or something! i love him so much and he really is my best friend, but he has turned into a monster. i don’t know what to do. i cant get through to him. its like living with a room mate when last week i was livng with the man i loved who made me totally happy. But now everything is about him, like a spoilt child. He wants space and goes off alone to clubs and leaves me at home because he doesnt care that i live in Estonia in eastern eurpoe which is his country. i live here for him but i have no friends yet and i am not aloud to drive here until i take my licence again in this country. i am trapped and i cant get out. i feel like im going mad! i cant have my own life but he has decided to go off and live his. men or women any advice? and to top it all off i may be pregnant because: we have been trying for a year but he says his sperm count is so low he never thought it would actually work so now i may be pregnant and he tells me now that he doesnt want it. (im having it either way!) THANK YOU IN ADVANCE FOR ANY HELP! =)
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