Comments on: Worried about ex-girlfriend?

By: LDR SUFFERER

LDR SUFFERER — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 19:07:02 +0000

She’s lucky to have a guy like you around who truly cares for her. BUT you cannot control the life she wants to lead, she has issues that needs to be addressed by a professional and of course that is still her decision if she wants to be on therapy or not, like I said you can’t decide things for her.
Best you can do is to be always there when she needs you. Not a doormat but a friend because you can’t force her and dictate her of what is right for her life.
Here’s a suggestion: one of my friends tricked his ex to see a psychologist. He told her to accompany her to a center where you need to bring a friend. When they got there, the psychologist was ready for her denials and he managed to convince her to open up. They didn’t get back together but her ex is doing better than before.

By: Curt Monash

Curt Monash — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 14:37:40 +0000

It’s very tough. You can’t save her.

On the plus side, your “too late” fear is probably misplaced. Giving up one’s virginity to the wrong guy at age 19 is something MANY women get over.

And how in the world does one get too dependent on somebody to break up with him only one month into the relationship???

By: Newmomofone

Newmomofone — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 16:30:27 +0000

You can’t help someone who isn’t willing to help themselves…right now, she has her cake and is eating it too….

She has you for morel support, a shoulder to cry on, a friend to listen. She has him for sex, obviously a ride to work and to make herself feel better.

If she was seriously upset about the whole thing, she would seek professional help and honestly, find herself before trying to create a relationship.

I would suggest to her about councilling…try to convince her to be SINGLE…which also means with you….

But as I said ealier, you can’t help someone who is not willing to help themselves. My sister was like your girlfriend, all depressed about life, nobody loves her, etc etc…she would constantly cry on my shoulder and I would offer her advice and she would never take it. Later, I figured it out that she liked the drama and the attention. Needless to say, I stopped giving it to her because I hate games and she has straightened herself out…

By: konfuzed_baby

konfuzed_baby — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 16:45:53 +0000

its so nice of you that eventhough youre not together, you are still concern for her welfare, better talk to her about that, try to make her choose the right thing but dont push her too much, people with that kind of personality doesnt want other people telling them waht to do, let her make the decision, but make her understand the effect of such decision.

By: Gina

Gina — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 00:00:59 +0000

You should tell her that #1 – she shouldn’t be dependant on anybody but herself. #2 – remind her that You are there, and keep telling her that She Will Get Hurt if she stays with that guy. #3 – If you still have feelings for her, I suggest now is the best time to be her knight in shining armor.

Where is your white horse at ? Save her! She’s not just your ex-girlfriend, she used to be your Best Friend!

By: No M

No M — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 20:17:32 +0000

She is not longer yours to worry about. She is old enough to make her own choices, and she has. You will only push her away more by pointing out how wrong yoou think she is. Give up the lost cause caused it will only get you down/make you mad that your advice is not being listened to… Final Quote from myself actually…”People only do what they want to do, and not what others tell them, if a change is needed they need to want that change, otherwise it wonlt happen” …cya

By: Juanita L

Juanita L — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 03:31:24 +0000

Well, you are a good person to try and help her.
My advise would be – just be a good friend – spend time with her and keep on talking to her.
Maybe you can convince her to seek professional help – like a psychiatrist – maybe it will help if you suggest that you will go with her.

Good luck

By: mlock123

mlock123 — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 13:34:43 +0000

You sound like you really care about her, more than she cares about herself. She really needs counseling to deal with these pent up issues. I would talk to her about this sex issue some more and tell her the consequences.

By: filip

filip — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 23:43:17 +0000

You can not! Free will can not be surpassed! Live with it!

By: BOOBABY

BOOBABY — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 12:10:17 +0000

She needs to learn how to empower herself…..you trying to do that for her is not possible. I understand your concern but it’s up to her to realize she has serious problems and find a way to deal with them.